@jlam1950 No one can say, "I know how you feel" because they don't. I do understand that it is devastating for you. I know that my dad and his mother (my grandmother) had Dementia. It is definitely a lot to process and a lot to unpack because I watched my Dad try to process it. It was certainly not easy for him either. It wouldn't be for anyone. You are right when you said those are human reactions to a horrible diagnosis. I do know they have assisted living facilities where you can live. I have seen people that take some of their furniture and make their living area very nice. Where I live and worked as a nurse part of what I did was go to facilities to see patients. Or check into someone who can be a live in caregiver so you don't have to leave home. I would ask if they are bonded through the company that they work for. Please tell me how the Alzheimers association is part of the problem. On many occasions I have seen many different stories of people with dementia.
Check out assisted living and see what they will provide for you. Keep in touch please.