I am 71 just had RARP in January
I tolerated the surgery well- and it went well. I think my surgeon would have liked me to leave the hospital the next day but I spent two days in the hospital ( day of surgery and the day following surgery) I was sort of beat, my shoulder really hurt ( they pump you up with gas (carbon dioxide I think) to make the surgery better so the gas gets trapped in your shoulders I also had seven holes in my abdomen and was tired and sore all over and had a catheter. I really needed the second day.
I am in reasonably good health however I have to keep reminding myself that as we age it really does take longer for things to heal.
If your husband's best bet is to get the prostrate removed I would not let being 69 get in the way
I am also happy to share anything else with you that I went through I wish you and your husband good luck

Age 72-1/2. No real health issues, but just in average shape.
The only Dr. that made a passing comment on my age was the Anestheiologist who came in when I was being prepped for surgery and said "oh, you are one of the older guys we usually do these surgeries on". They proceed with no farther comment.

It is more “how healthy is he” than how old is he. At 69 surgery is definitely an option, as long as you are in good shape.

I'm 69 and had a RARP a month ago. I started off using three pads during the day and one at night. I now use one during the day (which ends up being almost dry at the end of the day) and one at night (which usually is dry in the morning). I started doing kegels about two months before surgery and am physically fit.