thanks peter
can you let me know how the artificial sphincter goes,?
I have heard about that and a sling or something like that/ why did you chose that option?
I really hope this goes away but who knows/. It may be that I am 71 and things are taking longer in general.
I agree with you; I am very frustrated with being told to more or less wait, live my life, etc it is a big deal to be leaking almost all the time, around family and friends/ I do not see ever getting comfortable with this I can try to stay indoors or by myself most of the time, avoid strenuous activities, but I do not want this to go on and on, Three plus months already and it might go on for nine more months> I really hope I can turn some corner in the near future

One of my issues is trying to determine how much to push things, continue to do physical activity, do my daily workouts but also know when to back off and rest / I am just now learning that there is a sort of 'delayed reaction' following strenuous activity., I love swinging a mattock, digging holes, carrying heavy things, I love working and doing things all day long. However- now- when i do some of these things, even just a couple of hours of gardening- I feel great, my mood is excellent (like my old self) but then about 4-5-6- hours later the wheels come off. I also can now tell that my pelvic floor muscles are sometimes hypertonic and spasm ( get tight and cannot relax for hours.,) just like doing physical things, I have to monitor my pelvic floor muscles to push some and also make sure I am backing off some or trying to relax them
I really appreciate the comments and if anyone has any tips or advise I would love it

Look into a new product called ProACT. They put a couple of balloons near your urethra and then bring up the pressure and it Works apparently. Someone in this forum had great success with almost complete Incontinence