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@happykc I totally get what you mean. So many groups cater for people who fear death, worry about what happens after death and generally need help with coming to terms with dying.
Others (like myself) are comfortable with the prospect of dying and don’t fear it or worry about what happens next. Whether there’s something
or nothing.
Yet many of our loved ones ARE fearful about our deaths and aren’t comfortable talking about it. They are the ones who need those other support groups!
When I was diagnosed with stage 4 appendix cancer the first thing I did was to come to terms with death. I don’t want to die, I love my life. But I don’t fear death and I am at peace that it could be very close around the corner.
If I say something to my family or friends which recognises that (eg “I must do X soon to make sure I get the chance before I die)” they rush to tell me I mustn’t think like that etc. Yes I must!!! I want a group that understands that. It’s not a misery group we’re after but a joyful group supporting each other in making the most of what’s very likely a more limited time.
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Bless you, @isadora2021! You nailed it. I have to watch what I say, I have grown granddaughters who will dissolve in tears when I say stuff like you mentioned. It's nice to be loved, and to know I will be missed, but let's get real. I'm older than dirt. It's OK. I've had, and continue to have a wonderful life. I cherish every moment (umm, almost!) I'm here. I'm a 3x cancer survivor, one that almost took me, another that still may. It's all good now, all that pain and suffering is behind me, and I am loving life. All of it. And you are right, it's not a misery group, but joyful. Many of us have been there and back, and know the worst is behind us. Peace and Every Good!