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My 54-year-old husband died in a plane crash. When the sherrif's department person shows up at my door to tell me, I distinctly heard a crack in my head like the shifting of tectonic plates. It was on the evening news and people started coming to my house. The best support that night came from my sister who hugged me long and hard and then silently stayed right by my side, When I left the room to use the restroom she waited out in the hall for me. Years later I asked her how she knew that was an appropriate thing to do -- her answer was "I didn't know". In the following days so many friends would begin with "I don't know what to say" and then say some wonderful things to me. Friends would tell stories of their experiences with my husband, some quite funny and we laughed and that was most comforting. One close friend said "He's in a better place" and that made me angry.

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It is a unique type of loss when you lose someone so suddenly and tragically. I'm sorry you had to live through this. What a gift to have your sister by your side in that way. Some people have amazing intuition.

We had such a powerful conversation with Amy Lin about her book Here After. I hope you were able to listen to the episode
https://libraryguides.mayo.edu/readtalkgrowpodcast/Episode50
This grief never leaves you - though I understand it is different in different moment/days/weeks.
Have you found it helpful to connect with others who have navigated traumatic loss?