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My 55-year-old son was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer stage 4 in October '24. Fortunately he was slender and very fit. He's been getting chemo since early November and is tolerating it well. His hair fell out and he experiences fatigue. The cancer did a walkabout to his liver. His condition is terminal and the chemo is buying him time. He has a 10-year-old daughter who knows he has cancer but doesn't know how bad it is. In the US there is a non-profit group called Wonders and Worries who offer therapy for children living with a seriously ill parent. My son is still able to do the things he really wants to do and is contemplating a road trip with his daughter this summer. I experience profound sorrow but am able to model a good attitude for my family's sake. This is a very hard road to travel.
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brad2531 - that’s wonderful that you are able it seems to not let your sadness be reflected too much. I’m sure you are hurting immensely and maybe a little scared like my husband. Don’t be afraid to show your empathy, but at the same time if you can keep yourself together I’ll be frank, it’s helpful. I’m 67 and dx at stage 2 in 2022, and then stage 4 shortly after surgery and first run of chemo. It moved to my liver and got that radiated, and after 6 months (same time radiation wears out) my cancer is coming back very aggressively and we just got the news yesterday and my husband in very bad shape. But this weekend I did the 5k PancCan walk for cancer (in the rain!), so I’m enjoying life until the end. I like what your son is doing with his daughter and that’s a very selfless thing to do and I pray they have a great trip. I pray that your son tolerates chemo as long as he can and continues to leave a good legacy for his daughter.