@bruceg
Hi Bruce,
First, it’s not wise to try and diagnose yourself. Seizures can mimic other conditions/illnesses.
Have you had an EEG, MRI or CT?
Since your taking lamontrigine you must have been diagnosed by a physician. Did they give you a specific diagnosis?Have you see a Neurologist?
Your obviously unaware of your Absences but when your Focals START do you experience any sensations like headache, tingling, light-headedness, numbness, or odd tastes like metallic, sweet, bitter, salty, or have visual symptoms like seeing colors, shapes, flashing lights or hear any sounds?
An Aura is a precursor or warning to a seizure which can be any of the above and more, do you experience any before a Focal Aware Seizure (Petit Mal, old terminology) Some believe Auras are separate, however others, myself included believe an Aura is in fact a Focal Aware Seizure.
I relate to your memory issues but it’s to be expected with Epilepsy and Anticonvulsants. Some doctors may say seizure meds have nothing to do with memory loss, don’t buy it. You may want to talk to your doctor and see if there is a better medication option for you.