Most people with Epilepsy who have an EEG many don’t have activity during their test so it comes out normal. Mine are always abnormal. I haven’t had a lot of Focal Aware Seizures and the ones I had were never a precursor to a Tonic Clonic. I never knew of any triggers. Had seizures in in every conceivable place and every imaginable situation.
Congratulations on your positive attitude, a definite plus. Overcoming fear can be a difficult challenge but as you found out its possible to conquer.
You may ask your Neuro if Depakote is a viable option to control the Focal Aware Seizures.
Best of luck to you,
Jake