Feeling hurt by mum

Posted by red79 @red79, Apr 21 10:37am

I wasn't well other day I said sorry I couldn't make it for dinner for Sunday easter.i haven't heard anything from my mum for 2 days now she normally rings at night not even a text I didn't choose to be unwell

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gently | @gently | Apr 21 11:54am

red79, call her.

red79 | @red79 | Apr 21 1:42pm

I'm hurt she thinks I'm lying at being ill.she doesn't need to treat.e like this

red79 | @red79 | Apr 21 5:21pm

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Mum just rang and said sorry thank god,thanks for your advice.

celia16 | @celia16 | Apr 21 5:30pm

Is there some reason she would make that assumption? What if you let her know you really were sick?

Everyone is different, but I changed the way I have always interacted with my mom recently. She was in the hospital for a couple of weeks (she’s fine now) and I gained perspective on how she treated me, which caused me aggravation. I now tell her exactly what I think in a nice way and explain my expectations of her in how she treats me. It’s a big improvement and causes me a lot less stress and worry. I saw a therapist in gaining skills to do it.

I hope things get sorted out. Hope you’re feeling better.

Scott R L | @scottrl | Apr 21 8:01pm

Sounds like your mother may have overreacted.
People do that sometimes when they're disappointed.
But they soon recover, as she did.
Good luck!

red79 | @red79 | Apr 22 1:48am

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Thank you so much for your great advice.im feeling better I was bleeding from back passage with tummy ache but got colonoscopy book .how are you

red79 | @red79 | Apr 22 1:49am

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Yes so true thank you.how are you

Scott R L | @scottrl | Apr 22 5:52am

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I'm glad you found my comment helpful.
Take care of yourself.

dlydailyhope | @dlydailyhope | Apr 22 7:23am

@red79
I can relate. That happened to me years ago at Christmas. I called my mom a couple days before Christmas and she was going to call me on Christmas. She never called and I didn’t hear from her for several days after Christmas so I finally called her to let her know how hurt I was.

I was also sick on Easter and did not go to the house I was invited to. I did t want to get others, especially the elderly, sick. My mom passed years ago so I can’t see her or talk to her now. I wish I could.

I’m glad your mom called you. It is good for you both to be open with each other about your feelings and needs.

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