When is he supposed to have the surgery? I was advised that the pre-surgery chemo is usually between 4 and 6 rounds (because it isn’t well tolerated after surgery) but my husband doesn’t think he can deal with 6 at once. He’s in construction too-he’s a plumbing contractor. Maybe you guys can talk with the oncologist about stopping chemo until after the surgery so he can gain some strength back. I think sometimes they forget they’re dealing with human beings and not machines.

Hi I’m Scott, I’m 62 went through Flot program also. Started with 4 treatments every other week for 2 months. Waited 5 weeks then had surgery. Surgery went well long but well two surgical teams. After surgery waited 4 weeks then 4 more treatments of chemotherapy. Waiting now for pet scan in June. Feeling better every day. Food is starting to taste better. When I got diagnosed I couldn’t eat or drink anything. I had feeding tube put in was using that for 6 months. So happy to eat again. But with your further question what you can do is just be there for him. I was positive and strong for my family. But I still needed them to. There’s always days you can get down. So you being there does help no matter what. Also if you can take walks with him that helped me so much. Gave me worth. I’ve always had physical job also in shape. So this cancer can knock you for a Lupe. Just be there for him and listen. Also tough on you. Talk to someone there usually counselors available to talk to.