I'm also sorry to hear of your diagnosis. Back in October I was completely shocked when I was diagnosed with pc at 54 years old and no family history. My PSA had been gradually increasing on my annual physical exams. It became a concern to my GP when it went from a 3.09 to 3.7 in 6 months, then to 6.7, having gone from 3.9 to 6.7 in 6 months. I was sent to a Urologist who had me do a biopsy. The results showed 8 of 12 cores positive for pc. Gleason 4+3 on five of the eight and 3+3 on the other three cores. i also had an MRI and full-body scan which showed it was contained to the prostate. I met with several Urologists and Radiologists who all recommended radical prostatectomy due to my age. None had recommended active surveillance or radiation treatment. I had the DaVinci robotic assisted RP about 4 1/2 weeks ago, so I am still recovering. So far, so good. No incontinence issues...yet. I guess I can say may post-operative effects have been mild to mid. Still painful, more than I expected or was told to expect, but I treat it with Motrin or Tylenol which helps. I returned to work last week, but my job is mostly sedentary so it hasn't been too bad. For me, the worst part was having the catheter for 8 days, following surgery. Once it was removed, it hasn't been a cake-walk, but slowly getting better. Although I haven't experienced incontinence, from time to time I have a little leakage when going from sitting to standing or lifting anything over 15 lbs. I know its different for everyone, but this has been my experience.