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I'm always intrigued with the "dignity" aspect, number 13 in your litany. For over twenty years I have had my genitals examined, handled, scanned, scoped, injected, shaved and probed by doctors, nurses and technicians of both genders. I've read many, many comments about male modesty in the medical setting but truthfully never experienced any concerns myself. All of my caretakers have been perfectly professional and a couple of them thanked me when I didn't make a stink about a chaperone in the room. Now with my nerves un-spared by the prostatectomy, I have no fear of an erection in anyone's presence and I guess that has always been the issue. If our penis was just a urination device, we might feel differently. But since it's connected to sexual pleasure, we worry about embarrassment, maybe even shame. I know many people associate this situation with American culture and the sexualization of all forms of nudity, even nudity in the doctor's office. As I told one nurse before she injected me with lidocaine before a cystoscopy, "if it meant I'd be cured of everything wrong, I'd do this procedure in the middle of your waiting room."

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@tomf It is a felony to violate a modesty without permission! Demand same sex providers. And change your consent forms to same. NCSBN Page 33 definition of sexual assault.

@tomf I don't believe her. I've been deceived by females wanting to expose me. They say lies to comfort you & maintain control. You have the right to same sex care ! Exposure violations are a felony.