I'm trying to get my husband to agree to moving his bed downstairs so he wouldn't have to go up and down the stairs every night. I also want to get a wash-and-fold laundry service so he wouldn't have to go up and down the basement stairs to get to the washer and dryer. He refuses to make any of these changes and said he'd find another place to live. I said, You'd rather move out than move some furniture? He's always been stubborn and in many ways he's still completely himself, but any little change is like putting up a wall that he won't break through or climb over. I've started taking on more and more without discussion, but some things need his cooperation. In general, he's very helpful and sweet, so I realize I'm luckier than many of us in this group are.