Do You Get the Impression You Are Not Believed by Others…

Posted by SusanEllen66 @SusanEllen66, Apr 16 12:09am

When you tell your “story” do you feel like others think you are lying?
For example, you go to a new doctor, give them your long list of medical situations and you get the feeling you are not believed.

Or you tell someone a true, but unusual experience you have had. You get that side glance, squinting eyes look…you can tell they doubt your story.

It happens to me, what about you?

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@dlydailyhope

@SusanEllen66
I have had multiple doctors do that to me. If you are older and especially female, you do not always get taken seriously or fully listened to. To me, it isn’t only about being taken seriously or believed, it can be doctor bias, arrogance, ignorance, or disrespect. They just may not care. They stop listening.

There are many doctors who should retire or change careers.

Older patients and females must work extra hard to advocate for themselves and keep pushing for proper diagnosis and treatment options to improve quality of life. You need to do research and educate yourself plus review all of your medical records to have knowledgeable conversations with doctors and to ask questions. If doctors dismiss you, you must fire them and keep looking for doctors who still care to help their patients feel better and improve their quality of life.

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@dlydailyhope
Oh, yes. I educate myself about my disease, and try to speak to the doctor with confidence. Asking intelligent questions, and not being afraid to correct them if needed is what I do. Of course I am respectful and willing to listen to them.

I go into the exam room armed with the faith, the hope, and the love we all need to get through this life.

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I have had “unusual” happenings in my family over the last 70 years.
Telling someone your personal story involving murder, a precocious, in a negative way, child; emotionally abusive adults, winning a prestigious award (Emmy), having a very rare disease, child in prison, child dead (overdose), a child autism, sales awards, owning a recording studio, being related to many government officials, and European royalty (King Henry V111) and all his wives.

Every one of them is true.

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@kudzu

I agree; think of it as a great way to quickly screen out a bad dr and move on.
A dr can be academically bright but a disaster with people.

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Doc Martin, sorry, my sense of humour 😅 😄

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@kudzu

I agree; think of it as a great way to quickly screen out a bad dr and move on.
A dr can be academically bright but a disaster with people.

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Yes!

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@SusanEllen66

I have had “unusual” happenings in my family over the last 70 years.
Telling someone your personal story involving murder, a precocious, in a negative way, child; emotionally abusive adults, winning a prestigious award (Emmy), having a very rare disease, child in prison, child dead (overdose), a child autism, sales awards, owning a recording studio, being related to many government officials, and European royalty (King Henry V111) and all his wives.

Every one of them is true.

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@SusanEllen66
You do have many “unusual” things in your life. It sounds like a book or movie needs to be done to capture all of this! You are one strong soul.

May you have a blessed Easter and know you are loved. May His peace be with you.

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@SusanEllen66

I have had “unusual” happenings in my family over the last 70 years.
Telling someone your personal story involving murder, a precocious, in a negative way, child; emotionally abusive adults, winning a prestigious award (Emmy), having a very rare disease, child in prison, child dead (overdose), a child autism, sales awards, owning a recording studio, being related to many government officials, and European royalty (King Henry V111) and all his wives.

Every one of them is true.

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I also have quite a story about my childhood which I rarely share: born in the Soviet Union to a family of underground Protestant church leaders. My dad spent 8 years in the gulags, my grandfather was executed during Stalin’s rule. My family came to America after my dad and four other Soviet dissidents were exchanged for two Soviet spies during Jimmy Carter’s administration. You should see people’s faces when I summarize my childhood! I keep most of the facts to myself and just say that I was born and grew up in Kyiv, Ukraine. lol

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@alive

I also have quite a story about my childhood which I rarely share: born in the Soviet Union to a family of underground Protestant church leaders. My dad spent 8 years in the gulags, my grandfather was executed during Stalin’s rule. My family came to America after my dad and four other Soviet dissidents were exchanged for two Soviet spies during Jimmy Carter’s administration. You should see people’s faces when I summarize my childhood! I keep most of the facts to myself and just say that I was born and grew up in Kyiv, Ukraine. lol

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There should be a ‘wow’ button’…what an incredible family history! Thank you for sharing with us! I’m so sorry for what’s happening in your childhood home. 💛 💙

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@loribmt

There should be a ‘wow’ button’…what an incredible family history! Thank you for sharing with us! I’m so sorry for what’s happening in your childhood home. 💛 💙

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Thank you, Lori! What’s happening to Ukraine breaks my heart! It’s such a beautiful country with very resilient people who just want to be free!

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@dlydailyhope

@SusanEllen66
You do have many “unusual” things in your life. It sounds like a book or movie needs to be done to capture all of this! You are one strong soul.

May you have a blessed Easter and know you are loved. May His peace be with you.

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This supportive comment gave me an idea SusanEllen66. How about writing some of these things down in a journal or a bit of memoir? You can express yourself freely without worrying about how anyone reacts. It might be helpful!

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@dlydailyhope

@SusanEllen66
I have had multiple doctors do that to me. If you are older and especially female, you do not always get taken seriously or fully listened to. To me, it isn’t only about being taken seriously or believed, it can be doctor bias, arrogance, ignorance, or disrespect. They just may not care. They stop listening.

There are many doctors who should retire or change careers.

Older patients and females must work extra hard to advocate for themselves and keep pushing for proper diagnosis and treatment options to improve quality of life. You need to do research and educate yourself plus review all of your medical records to have knowledgeable conversations with doctors and to ask questions. If doctors dismiss you, you must fire them and keep looking for doctors who still care to help their patients feel better and improve their quality of life.

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Totally agree with you I am an older female and feel once you get to retirement age doctors don't listen anymore.
I am retired and still working and need to be healthy. I bring this up to doctors I have seen that don't listen.

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