What would you do?

I think I would slap her face. That is so rude.

Yes. I think saying something like that, that is mature and firm, might be the best thing to do but I think, right or wrong, saying nothing is better on that one occasion. If it happens again that might be a different story.

I believe the nephew knows well about his girlfriend's character. She has a respectable job and otherwise would seem to be a decent person. It's surprising and bizarre she would say something like that. Maybe it's a mental issue they have where they can't suppress what they are thinking in certain situations?

@robertwills I might, if I had my wits about me, say “gold! where? , let’s go digging”
Well, you get the point.

If you snitch to the nephew you will be the bad guy not her. Nephew would feel embarrassed about dating her so his feelings would make him lash out at you.

I thought about saying something like that but I think the mature way is to say nothing the first time.

If you snitch to the nephew I believe that would add to reason(s) to breakup from the girlfriend, assuming he is a decent person.

@robertwills sorry, but you are wrong.
Assuming is your first mistake.

If I told my brother that his wife was ugly how would he react? He could agree with me, and divorce her, or
he could smack me in the face for disrespecting his wife.

I don’t want my brother to be angry with me, so if I’m smart, I will keep my mouth shut, and my opinions to myself. If he decides to divorce her it has to be based on his opinion not mine.

Your analogy uses physical appearance. The original question was based on bad character. Those are two entirely different things .

In the the original question I believe by telling the nephew what happened it will not elicit a negative response, unless the nephew is not a decent person. The nephew may know about the girlfriend's character but has overlooked it but after they learned she insulted a family member the nephew might get out of a relationship that would be bad for them, too.

@robertwills
No matter what the issue is, “hitting” the nephew with negative whatever will more than likely end up with him being upset with you.
If he doesn’t see the problem, and it’s hurting others, then it’s time for you to question his motives too.
Has he turned a blind eye towards the situation for his own profit?

I am not assuming the nephew to be innocent.

Time for prayer, and coffee. I unfortunately switched my priories this morning.

"If he doesn’t see the problem, and it’s hurting others, then it’s time for you to question his motives too."

I thought that, too. It's hard to say. It could be the girlfriend has lots of other good qualities and the nephew is overlooking the negative or even letting her know how it bothers him and others with a warning. Certainly if the nephew knew of the rudeness towards the aunt that would be grounds for at least an apology to the aunt, let alone a break up. If not then the aunt knows that there is very bad blood in the family that they were not aware of and should adjust their interactions, if any.

You need some butter biscuits to go with the coffee. How good it would be on the shore of Long Island having a coffee break and butter biscuits! Then a long walk on the beach. I would love to be there right now!

@robertwills my sister goes to JB all the time. A picture is attached. They won’t post picture with faces.

My dad went every day rain, sleet or snow. When he died, we had his ashes in a pink salt urn. My nephews helped sister go out on a boat to throw him in the ocean across from the area he loved.

@robertwills picture won’t download