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Dealing with a Spouse with a “Mild Cognitive Impairment”
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I'm trying to do as you do and just accept that rather than being annoyed when I see him standing outside, scanning the sidewalk for me, I should understand that he simply misses me. I have learned more patience and tolerance since this all began four or five years ago. At first I was angry, very angry. Everything he did was so annoying. I didn't blow up at him but would go to my best friend's house and vent to her. That helped. But as time has gone on and my husband has declined, I'm no longer angry. I do get annoyed but probably no more than any spouse would in normal circumstances. Being a caregiver is more than looking out for the other person, it's a lesson to improve oneself.
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@pamela78 I realizeI’m reading this several months after you posted, but I feel I should look for more of your posts on here, as our lives seem to be running a parallel in this area at least. I am still at the “annoyed” part tho…when my husband of 52 years meets me at the door, or, more recently in the garage or even when I pull in the driveway. I like a few minutes to just breathe before coming back in the house. I need to be thankful that I still CAN get out by myself, even if only for an hour or two.
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Its a very hard road, and i too have struggled with resentment. I feel like I'm in a new season of acceptance now so i feel much better emotionally. I hope for more peace for us both. My garden brings me joy, what brings you joy Pamela?