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Full disclosure: I am an experienced mental health professional and a fully trained and vetted (evangelical) pastor. And I'm not particularly suffering from my PC today. It turns out what I worried might be bone metastasis seems apparently to be overworked nerves dealing with osteoarthrosis, a newer name for arthritis (and the aftermath of RP.) I can also disclose I went through a phase watching Columbo reruns 😉 before Comcast yanked the free subscription and I refused to pay for it. Maybe next year.
So I'm mainly back to focusing more on other challenges, reading this forum less, and contemplating life from my preferred distance.
It seems to me that this thread is more about grief than treatment, and I know that grief is real for me and for most of us with PC as well as most of those alongside us with PC. And I only said "most of" to be nice.
While going through grief, I personally try to fully experience the stage and emotion I'm currently experiencing while also reminding myself that another stage is coming. The stages I use to describe grief are denial, anger turned outward, anger turned inward (and toward God, for folks like me), deep pain, and integration. I also see the cycle of grief as starting like a tightly twisting helix rapid-cycling through these phases that eventually may broaden out and become more focused on each stage individually, although all the stages can both be present to a greater or lesser degree as well as come around again in yet another cycle. I woke up this morning with one of those recycling times related to traumatic experience from long ago, and perhaps I'm distracting myself from that by posting here!
All the best given whatever stage and combo you and those close to you are dealing with at the moment and here's to more life for the days yet to come. And if this doesn't resonate with you, that's fine too. Have you ever noticed there's only room for three reactions to a post on this forum and they're all positive?! So here's a like, a helpful, and a hug to you all.

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Replies to "Full disclosure: I am an experienced mental health professional and a fully trained and vetted (evangelical)..."

Reverend, I too agree that we need a 👎🏻 button, but the more I thought about it, the more it would cause the forum to degenerate into a Yahoo chatroom.
So best not to push any buttons if you disagree with the post.
So all this grief you speak about…am I incorrect in thinking that the forum, in your view, is one big pity party? I sometimes feel that it could be, although there is much more in the way of actual prostate discussion and information.
But because men are reared to be strong, stoic and resilient, it’s good to have an outlet with like-minded individuals; it does help to work through some of the challenges and frustrations. Thank you for that insightful post,
Phil