I'm trying to do as you do and just accept that rather than being annoyed when I see him standing outside, scanning the sidewalk for me, I should understand that he simply misses me. I have learned more patience and tolerance since this all began four or five years ago. At first I was angry, very angry. Everything he did was so annoying. I didn't blow up at him but would go to my best friend's house and vent to her. That helped. But as time has gone on and my husband has declined, I'm no longer angry. I do get annoyed but probably no more than any spouse would in normal circumstances. Being a caregiver is more than looking out for the other person, it's a lesson to improve oneself.