Try getting a copy of Colin Wilson's THE OUTSIDER.
No one comes up to me at gatherings to talk. When I overhear their conversations, I don't want to talk to them. Mostly stupid chatter. Maybe they sense this about me and respect it or avoid it. I found I am a Meyers-Briggs INTJ, a "difficult" type. I get along with other INTJs and my opposite ENFPs. I clash a lot with the latter, but it's beneficial.
Colin Wilson's Outsiders struggled with this. Be your own best friend first, then see if there can be a "fit" with some else. I find most people to be insensitive at best, and narcissistic exploiters at worst. My circle of friends is therefore very small. I think Erich Fromm said something like the precursor to being able to love is the ability to be alone.