Hi @tabi,
Thank you for being open about what you're going through. I see that you've already met @heatherf316, who has some great supportive insight; thank you HeatherF.
We all have weaknesses and are not perfect, and marriage can be hard work. Plus, all of us need positive support in our lives; when we don't see a brighter side to ourselves, in our relationships, that work just becomes harder.

Although this discussion is in another group, I would sincerely encourage you to read it: http://mayocl.in/2gBQljM Many of the members here, have talked about being in a toxic relationship, and hopefully you may get a better idea as to how to deal with all the negativity in your marriage.

In the meantime, I would also like to introduce you to @sherbert, @tbacskay, @baczero, @jlmaxim, @mika7, and @nativefloridian. Although, they are not in exactly the same situation such as yourself, they have talked in depth about narcissistic behavior, and how that can degrade a relationship.

@tabi, do you feel your marriage is worth the effort of continuing to live together,? Have you come up with any ways to deflect your husband's remarks?