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Support for caregivers: I feel helpless not being able to fix things
Pancreatic Cancer | Last Active: 15 hours ago | Replies (41)Comment receiving replies
I just found out that my grandma was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer at 62. I know it's quite early to seek support during this, but I am still in high school, and she is my primary caregiver. I can't help but let my mind wonder to helpless areas like imagining her not seeing me walk across that stage. She has always been a fighter and my biggest supporter. I began noticing changes in her in the past few months. Her appetite has been completely lost and doesn't enjoy foods like she once did. I know I should focus on my academics and my future, but it is so hard to do so when it primarily revolved around her. I always wanted to succeed for her. So, when I see her energy deteriorating, I can only feel my heart break more and more. I also feel completely unhelpful, and it's eating me alive, but I know I must keep trying my hardest for her.
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@klk1214, I can imagine that this is a very scary time for both you and your grandma. It's only natural that your mind wanders to the question "what if". There is a lot that is unknown.
While I know that both you and your grandma want you to continue to concentrate on your studies, it can be hard. Don't forget to take care of your need for answers and to get support. You're not alone.
You might find this website helpful:
Young caregivers: Cancer https://youngcaregiversconnect.ca/cancer/
Is your grandma at a cancer center? What treatment is she getting? Do you go with her to appointments?
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Do very sorry for the terrible news you just got about your grandma’s cancer. My wife is battling pancreatic cancer as well but your situation is so much worse. I hope that your grandma’s relatively young age will help her fight this and beat it. Great motivation for her is to see you graduate! Best of luck to you both!!!