Such a great post. Even if you have children and grandchildren, it doesn’t mean they will look after you. They all have their own lives and priorities. We’re blessed if we figure in that.

I’m so sad when some people try to guilt others into looking after them. There’s no obligation. It doesn’t work.

I chose not to marry or have kids. My choice. I had a wonderful fulfilling career and nieces who counted me as a second mum when they were growing up. I accepted I’d need to count on fending for myself when I retired. Stage 4 cancer at 58 led to an early retirement at 60.

I’ve knowingly accumulated financial resources to sustain me (if Trump’s tariffs and global down turn haven’t decimated them).

I haven’t counted on family help. Fortunately I’m still close to 2 of my 4 nieces and their husbands. They’ve been wonderful during my stage 4 cancer recovery. Yet it’s been my very close friends (6) who’ve been my main emotional support.

I don’t want to be a burden to anyone. I do my best to keep fit and healthy. I am still - for now.

I truly dread becoming incapacitated and reliant on others. I know that will be a total game changer.

I love this post for raising and showing the possibilities. Thank you.