@sherryfulk. Sorry, this is very long…
Speaking from my own experience and being 8 1/2 years out from stage IV throat cancer.
So let’s start with the biopsy; not speaking for all but the majority of doctors today know when a suspicious area is cancer. Also, as for myself, I had too much cancer to be a candidate for surgery and chemo/radiation was determined upon initial biopsy review…my ENT wanted to do a second biopsy but I was able to see my oncologist 2 days before it was scheduled and he cancelled it, he said it was a waste of time and $. My wife was a bit skeptical about it but I wanted to trust this oncologist. This oncologist was in his 70’s and I trusted he knew what he was doing, and he did indeed!
His first orders were; feeding tube, injection port, extract my wisdom teeth and lower molars that had fillings, pneumonia vaccine and file for disability.
Next, the being afraid; after my radiation oncologist I met my chemo oncologist. First thing he said was that I have a lot of cancer and they have one chance to kill it so they are hitting me as hard as they can and I’m not going to like it at all! Then he said “I want to talk to you about the Pavlovian Theory!” I replied, “are you talking about Ivan Pavlov?” His eyes opened up and he said “yes, tell me what you know!” After explaining that I am a K-9 handler and Trainer of police dogs and that we use Pavlov’s research yet today…if you’re not familiar let me explain in a nutshell; while studying the dogs digestive system he stumbled upon Classical conditioning and how to turn an unconditioned stimulus into a conditioned stimulus…when the dog salivated at the sight of food he rang a bell and soon the bell made the dog salivated without the presence of food…fast forward to approximately 1920, Dr’s Rayner and Watson studied if Pavlov’s findings would work on humans, hence the “baby Albert experiment” was born…simply put; Albert wasn’t afraid of the white rat. A loud bang was introduced at the entrance of the rat and Albert cried. After numerous repetition Albert would cry at the sight of not only the white rat, but also from white hair, fur etc…just like Pavlov’s dog would salivate at the bell, the lab coat, the person who fed the dog. Both studies are much deeper but what do they mean to your husband?
The same thing can happen to your husband that happened to baby Albert and Pavlov’s dog!!! Having the mindset that his treatment will make him sick has got to be erased from his mind. This is what happens to so many cancer patients; they feel ok until the oncologist walks in and then they vomit…this escalates to the room, the facility, the vehicle etc…DON’T BE A BABY ALBERT!!! Change his mindset FAST! Did chemo make me sick? Of course but they kept me on plenty of medication to curb that. But I saw many that became “baby Albert!”
Now, alternative medicine; I truly believe that we are right on time when we enter this life and as we exit this life so what we do in between either makes our life better or worse. An oncology team has entered you and your husband’s life now for a reason and that reason is to shrink and destroy that cancer! My suggestion is to let them perform their life saving steps with nothing but following their instructions. Many suggested I try alternatives but I declined and trusted my team!
Hope this helps and I didn’t create an enemy. 😘
MOJO