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Son estranged due to controlling spouse
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@beatrice20 She DOES come first.
A mother is not a sexual partner nor the mother of a man’s children. If their marriage is happy you’re no longer his primary confidant nor primary support.
Your relationship is now completely different. He no longer revolves around your sun. He’s got a new sun.
To understand that major change in your son’s life is to start a fresh understanding of the boundaries between you and your son and his wife and your role in their lives.
I don’t mean to be hurtful but helpful.
It should be a time of wonderful freedom for you to pursue your own interests, while being a loving but more distanced presence in their lives.
It will be so helpful to you to focus on living and developing your own life. Supporting others in your position to do the same.
To try and tug at your son is a no win situation. It pushes him further away. He’ll be happy to see you when that stress is gone.
I wish you joy in your new life and your freedom to be the best version of you and not a restricted primary care giver 🙏❤️🩹
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Sorry but you clearly do not understand. You are making the very wrong assumption that if your son cuts his parents out of his life that it is normal healthy and somehow the parents fault for not giving them enough freedom or respect . Perhaps you do not have children, any parent who had a healthy relationship with their child and then had that change would see how it makes no sense. We were never overbearing and never gave our opinion about anything only ever wished him well. I miss my son dearly, but i am done begging him to be part of his life. All relationships are a two way street, doesnt work when only one person cares.