How hard is living with a toxic parent ??

@brokensoul95
I can empathize with you on a toxic and dysfunctional home. It can be so difficult to endure and damaging to your heart/soul and mind.

Your mom is being abusive/neglectful. Since you are an adult, you need to do what you can to get yourself help and get away from the unhealthy environment.

It would be good to get a doctor and psychologist to help you with your mental health. It can take time to strengthen your mind/body and foundation to move forward.

Be patient and learn how to love and care for yourself and not look to your mother for validation and your identity.

Honey I'm 77 and grew up in the same atmosphere. It is almost too much to survive. My answer was reading the Bible and constant prayer. I also went to my school counselor everyday during study hall crying my eyes out. I can also suggest you talking to a pastor at a local church for comfort and support. Life is constant painful situations. Going through this will help you with the next. You'll gain self confidence and pride in yourself you made it through without resorting to illegal drugs or other distructive behaviors. Don't go looking for comfort in other people. Today friends are no help usually. They turn on you when you have a disagreement and it makes matters even worse. Don't marry young like I did because you're hurting so bad. That was the biggest mistake of my life. I was too young to know the importance of my husband's character or anything important about him as all I did was cry and vent about my problems and all he wanted was sex. That wore off fast and the grief that followed was horrible. Good luck and God bless❤️

you are also 21 and may leave that toxic environment at any time. Make a plan and execute it. You may need some assistance but it's out there.. And by the way. How, when and where is this great brother assisting in this outrageous behavior and abuse from your Mother?

@brokensoul95, it sounds like you need someone to talk to. You can reach trained counsellors at the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
– Call or text 988
– Chat with a counsellor at https://988lifeline.org/chat/
Chat is available 24/7 across the U.S. You don't need your phone. You can chat on your computer.

If you are not in the US, let me know. There are also international helplines you can access.

Talking with someone can help to figure out what to do next and build your life as an adult.

U do need to talk to a professional. U stuck in one thing and all ur mom caused it?
My mom was very negative and critical about everything
She always told me that there was something wrong with me!
I know how u feel. Been there.
Anxiety/depression will kill us.

I agree with those that say “Get the heck out of there. “ Don’t give her the power to manipulate you. Don’t let her drive you to suicide. Don’t let her win. I agree that you need to talk to someone about your suicidal thoughts. I see that Colleen gave you some phone numbers.( I love that she always has resources for people to connect with. ) They are there for people like you that need help, advice and understanding. It does not make you weak to seek help, just the opposite. It takes strength and guts to fight back and stand up for yourself. Is there a reason you haven’t left. Did something happen when you turned 13? Your brother must be a bit older than you if he is an MD. Could you reach out to him for help. Maybe he could financially help you get out of your mother’s house. Maybe he doesn’t know what you are going through. You won’t know unless you reach out and share with him. Good luck! You can do this! You can win back your life!!

Colleen. I love that you always share resources for people to connect with. Some day I would like to meet you. You do a wonderful job with this program. I’m sure that I am not the only one that notices your knowledge, kindness and thoughtfulness in your replies to those in need.
Thanks, Amy G

I grew up with a shrew. It is difficult to call her a mother. She was abusive in many ways. I later found out that many in my family knew what she was doing to me but no one intervened. Finally I had the courage to leave and I did. I went thousands of miles away. She was pissed because she thought people would think bad of her. Notice she only thought of herself, not me. Anyway I was in a strange city, but I found a job and a place to live and started to live a new life. A year after my move I met the man who was to become my husband for 59 years. She came to visit. I was a married woman with children and still she verbally abused me and put me down. Again I found courage to tell her to her face that I was through with her. That I did not want to ever see her again or speak to her - and I didn't. Many years have now passed. I am 90 years old and even with therapy there are still scars. My therapist diagnosed me with PTSD due to child abuse. Still I go on even though my beloved husband died 3 years ago. I sum myself up as a survivor.

Hello, Young Blood(smile)
You sound smart to me. Yes! it is very hurtful when the people who are supposed to incourage us do just the opposite in such a hurtful way. But.. here is the good news, You must love you,I say again you must love you🥰. as long as you got a roof over your head, food in your stomach. Be thankful. Next when your mother come to you with foolishness, because that is what it is foolishness,making you feel bad about yourself. Just smile.. I am here to tell you, figure out what it is that (you) truly love, which will earn you a money and a means of survival and do that education yourself at that. Afterward get out on your own, you are young,
Sure you want to do things young people are doing, however the cards life has dealt you are different. a boy friend or even friends are not going to house you and feed you for long. Remember you got you. its is a dog eat dog,world out here. (Love yourself first,)
Tell yourself what is true, we are all different in this world we don't all have the same gifts and talents if that were true everyone would be Doctors or rich people, we must each be true and happy with our self. Find your passion and be the( best) at what ever your passion is this is what will bring life long happiness. Love Yourself ❤️ look in the mirror tell yourself these 👍 things.
If possible also reach out by text or computer there is a world of people cheering for you to make it in life. Love yourself
The world loves a winner,
I believe in you.

Im so sorry to hear that 🥺and im glad to hear you've passed that hurdle 😔 I won't lie at some point i thought of going to stay with my boyfriend, he's been so supportive this whole time and it's now been a year and he's just been so good to me like no one has ever been to me before but i guess people do change and by hearing your story i now see how important independence is .