@beatrice20, you're right. This is a support group. I moved your other discussion to this related discussion, so that you can connect with others who have had similar experiences navigating changes as our children choose their partners and build their families.
- Son estranged due to controlling spouse https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/son-estranged-due-to-controlling-spouse/

On this forum, we only have text to communicate without the benefit of enhancing our messages with tone of voice or body language. I encourage you to re-read @newrochelle1131's post. I'm confident that her intent was to be supportive and offer a different perspective as does @IndianaScott and others.

For all.
Friendly reminder of the Community Guidelines (https://connect.mayoclinic.org/blog/about-connect/tab/community-guidelines/), especially guidelines number 2

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- Realize that sarcasm and joking will often be misunderstood.
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- Avoid comments (even when said in jest) that single out a specific group of people.
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