@elm123 I understand your fear. I'd be very worried too in your place. Do you have adult children and if yes do they notice any changes?

The Déjà Vu could be related to the memory problems however it's not possible to really know that without a full assessment. This is a difficult situation to find yourself in. Are there any other symptoms that your husband experiences besides these? Has he gotten lost going to or from familiar places? Does he have more problems getting his words out within the past year - as compared to the past? How about handling money, writing a check (I know none of us do that very often anymore), or handling finances? More irritability or changes in his mood than in the past? I'm asking these questions because these can all be related to dementia.

Since neither of you liked the neurologist and it doesn't sound like the neurologist was particularly helpful can you ask your husband's primary care provider to refer you to someone else? And if so, would husband go?