I can't find where I posted my situation before so I will repeat it in a Reader's Digest version. At the age of 70 I had RALP in Feb. 2023. Prior to it, a pelvic floor specialist put me through tests and said those muscles were in good shape. Post surgery, I never had urge incontinence, but had a lot of stress incontinence, more than one pad per day when doing anything active. I was doing kegels, but not core strengthening exercises. 6 months later, I requested a referral to a pelvic floor therapist whose exercises made things improve to 80% continence. Time and continued exercise (on my own at home) brought that to 90% dry, and I plateaued there. My doctor felt that was as much healing as I would get on my own. One light pad per day. On the second anniversary of the initial prostatectomy, I elected to have a male urinary sling implanted. Six weeks later, I am 99.9% dry. The .1% problems now center around immediate post-voiding drips, but for the most part I am back to where I was. These last two years remind me of hearing about lottery winners on the news but you never hear about the millions of ticket buyers who lost. Post surgery recovery is like a lottery. Prostatectomies cause more incontinence than doctors admit to, I am convinced. But we hear from the patients who are dry almost instantaneously and wonder what we did wrong. Just have your husband keep trying, and if his exercises aren't also working on his core, his progress will likely be limited. Good luck. And go to the National Association for Continence website and read from other men who are in his shoes.