You might be right about Betsy Arwakawa wanting to keep their lives private. Their house was fairly large, I believe, and I was surprised she didn't have help taking care of it (other than the yard work, I mean). I would assume they could have afforded housekeepers and even a nurse, but who knows?

My husband has adult children from his first marriage, and I know if something happened to me, they would see he got into a good care home. Their mother's second husband died of Covid during the worst of the pandemic, and he was her caregiver. The kids (funny to call them that since they're old people, too!) saw that she got into a good place. I never had children, so if my husband goes before me, I will figure out something for myself that makes sense.

I'll be interested to hear what you find out.