To @tsc: Making it my problem and not his is a good idea, especially as he's always eager to help me. He does the laundry, which requires going down stairs to a crummy basement. He's done that for a few years now since I told him I can't do those stairs anymore. I've thought about the washer/dryer combo. It's a great idea but our house is so small I don't know where I'd put it. Now I sound like my husband, always finding the negative in any suggestion. My bad. He did accept my request that we sleep separately. He doesn't like it, but I need a good night's sleep and he, through no fault of his own, just doesn't allow for that.