This is turning out to be quite different from what I had anticipated. I thought that with Alzheimer's the person would be more-or-less out of it, unaware. Not so. My husband is very aware. He has all the stigmata of the disease but he's cogent enough to have opinions and do things he wants to do. I can't plan around him because he's aware of everything I do or suggest. For example, we need to live on one floor, so I'm trying to think of solutions, from moving to another house to repurposing a room and adding a washer and dryer on the main floor. That would crowd us in what's already a small house. So it occurred to me that we could put on an addition. I'd love to do this. I think such a project would be fun. My husband is horrified by all these ideas, so I'm back to square one. We get older and sicker and our needs change and my husband won't accommodate them. I don't know what to do.