Sounds like me, except for the stones. But no on Lupus. My ana was "small" but positive, and most likely cuz I have Raynaud's Syndrome...red, cold, painful yet numb feet (always) and get cold, numb hands easily....all the rest is , I know, symptoms of Lupus, but also Parkinson's (that's mine), Huntington's, and a bunch of other neurological disorders. Have you seen a neurologist with your full list of symptoms in hand? They'll probably do tests, but tend NOT to test for Parkinson's or for Lupus. A friend who's had Lupus for years and had L in the family finally made his GP send him to a Mayo clinic to confirm Lupus, cuz his hospital said 'Men didn't get Lupus'. (His uncle's COD was Lupus) and only then would his hospital treat him. If you can't do this, why don't you just go to the ER for the anemia, bring your lists as well, of course, and see if they'll treat you or send a referral to a specialist. Consider a referral from GP or PCP to a neurologist.