I posted earlier about the feeding tube. I did mine early and I loved it. But I think sometimes patients resist because they think its a sign of weakness. Its not. But even more I think, and speaking as a two time cancer survivor, some patients resist because its the only "choice" we've been given. From the first diagnoses CANCER and doctors have made all the decisions. Looking back now a food tube seems like an easy decision but in your husbands reality its the only choice he's had for months. I don't know if this helps and I don't know how you get him past this. But he may not be deciding....he's only reacting. He could ease his own suffering and help himself heal by getting the tube. I don't know how you get him to that point. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.