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Aging Alone—Finding Strength and Connection
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Hello Marilyn I think I’ve identified with you several times before on this site. Wish you were my neighbor!
I’ve talked about this with you and others one other time.
I hate going to some ladies event where you hardly know anyone. I’ve left depressed, and never want to go back.
I’m only 81! I love saying that now!
It’s part of my new attitude.
Well anyway, we have a ladies group that meets once a month here in my HOA neighborhood.
I left early the first time feeling so sad. Did not go back for a year.
I’m not really shy but seems like I am with new people. Do not know what to do to start a conversation.
Finally one day I signed up to go again. Sat at a snack bar with like 6 other women. Just sat and listened for a while and then if I could chime in with a comment, I did. Eventually that helped me, break the ice.
At the end of the evening, I told the ladies that I did not want to come here tonight right up to the last minute!
And then I told them I was so glad I did. I got lots of hugs from them instantly and they were so happy that I said that to THEM. Made them feel good that they helped ME!
So I’m going to go again this week,
I’ll let you know how I did and what I did to make myself feel comfortable there.
I’m guessing others don’t know what to say either😘
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This sounds familiar! I’m 65, retired, contemplating going back to work after 3 years of freedom. But after looking and trying different volunteering opportunities etc, I got bored and tired of the same, I hate to say it, but fake people 😢. I created my own routine that’s pleases me, not boring at all until I find the job that fits me for my age of course, get paid for what you do with some flexibility and have more fun as long as good health still present , hugs 🤗 to all!
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Yes, your social life can change for the better. I knew someone who was about 85 and they met with their group of many friends who are about the same age almost daily in a recreation room in their high rise building. Their meetings were very light hearted and it seemed everyone got along well. It seemed to be the highlight of their day.