Grief is a long rocky road and some friends and family , sometimes even acquaintances can may an incredible impact and others not so much . Listening is a gift some of my friends possess and at times that’s all I needed was a listener . Sometimes I.just needed to be busy, to listen myself or just to laugh with someone , share a story and I have family and friends for that too .those who understand that there is no timeline for grief, no schedule, no rules are the most supportive for me . One of my best pieces of advice came from my own mother “don’t say no, if so,some invites you for coffee go, if it’s a walk,, go, dinner go, just go out be with people and share your life .