Am I being paranoid?

Posted by scottbeammeup @scottbeammeup, Mar 15 11:13am

Yesterday I had my nine month post radiation PSA, testosterone, blood tests and bone density tests. I was set to meet next Friday with my doctor to review the results.

Yesterday afternoon, someone from the doctor's office called and told me that my appointment was being moved to a nurse practitioner instead of the doctor and that they want to repeat the testosterone test on Monday but said they "didn't know" when I asked why (it's a full T test: total, free, estradiol, etc.).

This immediately made me think the results of one or more of these tests are going to be bad. The doctor knows I'm very emotional and I'm thinking that, rather than having to deal with giving me the bad news and watching me fall apart, he's going to have his NP do it instead.

My friends say this is a ridiculous conclusion to jump to and that I'm doing what I'm known for--always jumping to the worst possible conclusion.

What do others think? Why would a doctor want to repeat a test that was done on Friday again only three days later?

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@colleenyoung

@scottbeammeup, what crazy twists and turns our minds can spin for us when we're worried. Getting a call from your doctor's office probably started the worry train on its route to run-away train. Whenever the doctor's office number comes up on my phone, an alarm bell goes off. Kind of a white coat syndrome effect.

You got the call and were told that your scheduled appointment needs to be moved up and you'll be seen by the nurse practitioner. No one really explained why. Ready. Set. Go. And off to paranoia land.

Can I paint a different scenario for you?

Doc sees something out of whack. Not sure why and wants the test re-done to rule out lab error or other typical anonomalies that can effect results. The doctor is a conscientious doctor and wants this done as soon as possible and therefore tells his admin staff to call you and book you with the NP because she is available sooner.

No one. I repeat. No one at the doctor's office is thinking about emotions at this point. They are looking at numbers and schedules. In their mind, they are getting you the best care as efficiently as possible. It likely didn't even occur to anyone that this "simple" administrative communication could unleash a dominoe effect of emotions and you a puddle of worry.

What do you think? Might my tale be more plausible than a tall tale?

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Thanks Colleen! Lab error does make sense since that happened once before. Everything you said makes complete sense. I think sometimes I still get stuck in "fight or flight" mode and need to work on that!

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@scottbeammeup

| Can I asked if you have an exercise you like doing? How about a hobby? |

For exercise, I like hiking with my dog and bicycling, which, with winter heading out, I can start doing again. I also do weight training in the gym. I wouldn't say I "like" it but I don't hate it either. One thing that surprised me about it is how insecure some of the "muscle heads" are. They look great to me but are super critical of their bodies and I often hear them discussing tiny flaws amongst themselves "my traps are too small" "I hate my delts" etc. I mention this because it seems everyone is insecure about something.

As for hobbies, I'm retiring soon and looking forward to having more time to devote to them. My life for the past few months has basically just been work, exercise and doctor appointments.

I like mixing and creating music. I have a couple of physical synthesizers and about 30+ software ones. I've signed up for an online songwriting class so I can better at it.

I also have been learning Spanish. I can read it fluently and understand "CNN en español" because the announcers speak clearly, but when I go to a bodega it still sounds like gibberish. I hope to get better at that. My Spanish teacher is sponsoring a three week trip to Peru next February with no English allowed. I'm definitely signing up!

I also do volunteer work with a crisis line for teens and plan to keep doing that. It's all done through text now because nobody under 30 uses the phone anymore.

And I don't know if it's a hobby or not, but I like playing board and video games with my nieces and nephews, but they have to do the boss fights because I no longer have the reflexes for them 😃.

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Scott, I’m exhausted by all of your hobbies, interests snd activities!! How can you possibly find the time to worry??😉
Just relax and tell yourself “This is me, I am a worrier and I will worry about everything”. I’m JUST like you and this attitude has helped me immensely. Best,
Phil

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@surftohealth88

PS:
BTW, doctors should care about emotional welling of their patients - especially since USA fairs sooooo bad in mental heath and suicide rate among other wealthy nations. ESPECIALLY doctors in oncology field should pay attention and refer patients for help if they need it.

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Meant to write well-being - silly autocorrect *sigh

Also, it seems that editing one's own post is impossible after certain period of time - I must admit that I am not fan of this forum's interface : /

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@scottbeammeup

| Can I asked if you have an exercise you like doing? How about a hobby? |

For exercise, I like hiking with my dog and bicycling, which, with winter heading out, I can start doing again. I also do weight training in the gym. I wouldn't say I "like" it but I don't hate it either. One thing that surprised me about it is how insecure some of the "muscle heads" are. They look great to me but are super critical of their bodies and I often hear them discussing tiny flaws amongst themselves "my traps are too small" "I hate my delts" etc. I mention this because it seems everyone is insecure about something.

As for hobbies, I'm retiring soon and looking forward to having more time to devote to them. My life for the past few months has basically just been work, exercise and doctor appointments.

I like mixing and creating music. I have a couple of physical synthesizers and about 30+ software ones. I've signed up for an online songwriting class so I can better at it.

I also have been learning Spanish. I can read it fluently and understand "CNN en español" because the announcers speak clearly, but when I go to a bodega it still sounds like gibberish. I hope to get better at that. My Spanish teacher is sponsoring a three week trip to Peru next February with no English allowed. I'm definitely signing up!

I also do volunteer work with a crisis line for teens and plan to keep doing that. It's all done through text now because nobody under 30 uses the phone anymore.

And I don't know if it's a hobby or not, but I like playing board and video games with my nieces and nephews, but they have to do the boss fights because I no longer have the reflexes for them 😃.

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@scottbeammeup
Sounds like you have a full and rewarding life. I envy you.

I have tried to learn Spanish several times but find trying to convert Spanish to English very hard. Usually the person is speaking so fast can't do it. I tried Babel and seemed to work then got some medical issues and have not gone back to it. I think your Spanish teacher is really on with the trip and no English.

My nephews passed away. I too use to enjoy doing things wiht them. One died from an overdose and the other liver cancer. Playing board and video games is a hobby and sounds like you and your nieces and nephews enjoy doing them and your time together.

I try to do aerobics several times a week. Because of weight gain and not losing it my PCP wants me to do strength training. He says my body has got used to my aerobics workouts. Says muscle more calories needed. I agree but like water aerobics moving to music and bike riding. I do not really going to gym even though my community has an excellent fitness facility.

My dog who is almost 12 now has become younger versus me older. He wants to walk 1-2 miles in morning and evenings. So I get older and slower he is doing more and more and losing weight versu mine non budging. I know what I am saying is I am jealous of my dog.

Thank you for devoting your time to teen crisis line.

As I said, wow, you have a very full and rewarding life!

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@jc76

@scottbeammeup
Sounds like you have a full and rewarding life. I envy you.

I have tried to learn Spanish several times but find trying to convert Spanish to English very hard. Usually the person is speaking so fast can't do it. I tried Babel and seemed to work then got some medical issues and have not gone back to it. I think your Spanish teacher is really on with the trip and no English.

My nephews passed away. I too use to enjoy doing things wiht them. One died from an overdose and the other liver cancer. Playing board and video games is a hobby and sounds like you and your nieces and nephews enjoy doing them and your time together.

I try to do aerobics several times a week. Because of weight gain and not losing it my PCP wants me to do strength training. He says my body has got used to my aerobics workouts. Says muscle more calories needed. I agree but like water aerobics moving to music and bike riding. I do not really going to gym even though my community has an excellent fitness facility.

My dog who is almost 12 now has become younger versus me older. He wants to walk 1-2 miles in morning and evenings. So I get older and slower he is doing more and more and losing weight versu mine non budging. I know what I am saying is I am jealous of my dog.

Thank you for devoting your time to teen crisis line.

As I said, wow, you have a very full and rewarding life!

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Hey jc, maybe you should eat what your dog is eating and have him walk YOU.
I guarantee you’ll burn thousands of calories walking 2 miles on all fours!
😆😆😆

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@scottbeammeup, checking in. What did you find out? How are you doing?

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@scottbeammeup Scott . Do you ever feel you are the lucky one -- I'll bet lots of your friends and associaates have passed - and YOU are still around . I for example emigrated to North America over 60 years ago with 4 fellow engineering friends out of the same company offices . THEY ALL PASSED VERY YOUNG . My best friend of the group was only 26 , a heart attack . The oldest only lived to 52 years old . The othhers aged 35 and 44 .
I am 85 years young . I follow the quote of James Dean : " Live life like you will live forever -- Live today like you will die tomorrow ". OR As the saying goes : Today is the day you worried about yesterday . Being alive is good enjoy it . Worrying never changes results .
Perhaps , as recommended in Dr. Patrick Walsh"s book : Guide to Surviving Prostate Cancer , your doctor is seeking a 2nd opinion or the lab tests were comprimised . In any event , worrying will only slow your recovery and perhaps make your situatioon worse .
CHEER UP -- THINK OF OTHERS WHO ARE WAY WORSE OFF THAN YOU .
Your family will appreciate you change of attitude and the new you . A new lease on life .
Good luck .

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