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My father cries a lot. We are at a loss what to do.
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Mar 17 7:25am | Replies (16)Comment receiving replies
I just read this entire thread. Heartbreaking and relatable. First I commend the daughters for being there for their Mom and Dad- your parents are fortunate to have you and all of your time, energy, love and concern. Hugs to you.
My husband often has tears in his eyes when he shares a story or hears a story. This has been for several years even before his diagnosis. I tell him it’s ok to cry but he stops at the tears or the small twitch of his lips.
I think his dementia is vascular but he has never had a definitive diagnosis or cause. It could also be from mercury as he was a dentist using amalgam fillings for years. Our medical team has been his PCP, gerontologist who specializes in memory issues, and two neuropsychologists and a speech therapist for cognitive therapy. Never been to a neurologist and the only diagnostic test is MRIs and several MOCA and mini mental Evals.
So far MCI but it is progressing and for all intents and purposes it’s dementia. A mixed type and does more testing matter?
He is on several supplement and only one med for sleep.
But I am thinking he may need more for anxiety than ashewaganda.
This thread was a great reminder to hug him more, and enjoy the moment even if at times it feels sad. Paradoxical but true.
Hugs to all and thank you.
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My husband saw a neurologist P.A. for the first time yesterday for a more thorough evaluation that included brain images from his MRI. Alzheimer's is present (I sound like Princess Katherine) and I'm happy to have a definite diagnosis and the support of the neurological team, who are incredibly nice. My husband, however, felt he was being accused of things (things that really happen) and told he was going insane. I assured him that neither of these is true: no judgment, no insanity. When we got home, he asked me to explain what had been said and I reminded him or the Alzheimer's diagnosis. He said he does NOT have Alzheimer's. He's going to a dark place but he's in such denial that I almost think that's better. Knowing what to say and what to do is hard for the caregiver. The nurse/assistant told me it's harder on the caregiver than on the patient and I can believe that. There's so much ignorance about brain disorders and we see more and more of them all the time. I've learned a lot in the past couple of years.