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How do you deal with well-meaning, but hurtful, comments from friends?
Cancer: Managing Symptoms | Last Active: Apr 17 10:49am | Replies (9)Comment receiving replies
@bronthebrill, cancer is NOT your fault. While not the same type of cancer, you might appreciate some of the tips and stories shared in this related discussion. @loribmt has a great analogy of fight and flight with snakes and alligators.
- CLL: How do you evaluate well-meaning tips from friends? https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/cll-rick-simpson-oil/
Of course, we all know that eating well is good for our health and can reduce risk of heart disease, diabetes, cancer and other conditions. Did putting sugar in your tea cause cancer? No.
So how do you respond? That's tough. Have you told your friends about how their comments make you feel? This might open up a good conversation about how their well-meaning comments have a negative impact. Guilt and stress are also not good for anyone's health. But unconditional support from friends and social contact are very good for your health.
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Right, sugar has been around a long time. Of course, we have many varieties and artificial ones now as well. And, we also use it in different amounts. Like, I've seen people put 14 packets of sugar in a large coffee to then only drink a few sips and leave the rest for someone to throw out eventually. That seems to me excessive use of sugar or just wasteful. Then, I've heard people say that cancer feeds on sugar, but I have not seen anything in a medical explanation that states that or provides proof of it in a reasonable researched statement by any doctors treating cancer.
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I appreciate your response, and will try to be more gracious to them, and explain.