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Anyone have co-executors for their will?

Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Mar 11 6:22pm | Replies (16)

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@kartwk That’s sad. I would never have thought my siblings would be so disrespectful of my parents wishes or so predatory about my parents’ property. It’s been shocking to watch and I feel sorry for my father in particular. He and I both being lawyers have always been very close. As I was with my mother. I’ve loved spending time with both very much. I still take my father out at least 3 times a week for at least 3 hours each time for a meal, walk and drive and do any errands he needs. My siblings will never get those opportunities back.

I’ve never counted on inheriting so I’ve made sure I’m not reliant on my parents ‘ property. It would be helpful but it has never been part of my retirement plan!

I think that’s where this unpleasantness has come from. They have planned on inheriting and not accumulating themselves what they need to retire let alone retire comfortably. Especially my brother.

They also don’t seem to understand that an executor is legally bound to follow what the Will says. It’s my father’s wishes that count.

They also believe their “needs” now outweigh mine and what’s fair. My parents have always been very strong about treating we 3 kids exactly the same when we were growing up. We all got the same opportunities.

It’s unfortunate that the opportunity for a free lunch can change some people 💔

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Stay strong, serious guilt trips will be hurled.
Also suggest now you change the locks on your dad’s house and make sure all the first floor window locks can be fastened. Suggest deadbolts that are programmable, where the code can be changed if needed, rather than locks with keys that can be duplicated. A ring camera doorbell tied to your phone on the front and back doors would be a good idea, too.
My dad’s sisters, who lived in another state, quietly left the funeral early, went to his dad’s house and stripped it of everything carry-able, including photos and pictures off the walls. My dad didn’t speak to the “lead” sister ever again and the “follower” sister for over 10 years. He and my mother had been his dad’s primary caregiver for years, with rare visits by the sisters.
Unbeknownst to the sisters, he had bought the house for his mom and dad in 1945 (they had always been renters) and had paid the taxes and upkeep ever after. What an explosion when they found out there would be no share of the house sale. 🙂