Your lawyer is right. My mom passed in the same town my brother and I live, she named us co-executors. I lasted about 3 weeks and took myself off- every meeting has to be attended by both, every piece of paper to be gone over and signed has to be done by both, each step of the probate has to be communicated to both, and things don’t move to the next step without both approval. It was exhausting and time-consuming. I trust my brother implicitly, told the lawyers he was to be
the primary contact and whatever he said was fine with me. They seemed very happy, looks like family fights happen a lot.
I have a different problem, my husband is in AL with dementia. My daughter is a lawyer, lives in an adjoining state, 240 miles away. My son lives 1500 miles away, but has always had jealousy issues with his sister. I’ve named my brother executor and am hoping I go first, but we’re both in our 70’s. I know I’m kicking the can down the road.