daisylou, I'm partial to the anabolics primarily because their mechanism of building bone creates the most integrated bone. It isn't the thickest. It is the most durable. Anabolic-bone continues to reshape and realign spicules according to your activities.
My order would be 1 Forteo, 2 Tymlos, 3 bisphosphonates (Reclast, Fosamax . ..) 4 Evenity.
Prolia doesn't make the list.
The best medication for any one of us would be different.
Many have good results with Prolia and Evenity. Some have adverse reactions to Forteo. With autoimmune disease you'd probably avoid the bisphosphonates.
I would take Prolia if it were my only path to avoid fracture.
Forteo is my first and only prescription medication. While it has been an easy medication for me, most of my bias against the the others comes from pub med and patient reports.