I am sorry to hear of your news. I have stage 4 , metastasized to the bones and a couple lymph nodes. My psa at the start was 936. Terrible pain in my leg sent me to the doctor. Although there is no cure right now, they can control it. Nobody likes the side effects of the treatment, but it can keep us going forward. I just passed the two year mark. Support is so important, and as North mentioned, you need take time for yourself as well. It is quite the roller coaster of a journey but over time it does get easier to accept. Stay strong and carry on. I wish the best for you and him on this journey. Best to all.