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My wife has carried a diagnosis of MCI for 7 years with a gradual decline (significant short term memory loss, no planning/organizational skills, technology incompetent), but still relatively functional (drives once a month to hair salon or nearby Walmart). But she spends her days with the TV on very loud (hearing impaired) and doing crossword puzzles (cheats) or sudoku (not sure how well she does that). But will not go for walks, won't go out to breakfast or lunch. She would never agree to go to daycare. She accuses me of seeing someone (another woman) when I go to the grocery store or for medical/dental appointments. I'm feeling like a prisoner in my own home. She has a sister in another city who comes to stay with her a couple of times a year when I go off for a weekend of golf with my son and/or friends. I'm not looking for answers because I'm not sure there are any. I'm doing OK for now (just venting and comparing situation with others).

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Boy do I feel your pain. So much like my situation except it hasn't been even 1 year yet.

I completely understand your frustration. I've got something similar with my husband. Every case is different but the sense of loss of a partner is present however that loss manifests itself. I feel trapped, as if I had a toddler who needs consistent attention. My husband is still functional but his decline is apparent and increasing. We're seeing a neurologist on Friday, when I hope to get some answers. If she tells my husband to stop driving, our lives will change drastically and not for the better. I guess it's time to look into senior daycare again. I dread bringing it up because I know my husband will resist. Doing arts and crafts or exercises with twenty-something kids leading a group is definitely not his thing. He wants to tell his stories over and over and over. He could do that at a care center and people would listen to him and probably forget they'd heard the stories before. That happens now at his favorite coffee shop. He would hate to give that up. Maybe I could convince him to alternate days. There's a thought.