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Does anyone have any experience with Adult Day Care facilities?
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Mar 8 12:44pm | Replies (16)Comment receiving replies
Thank you for the insight. I appreciate it. My wife's condition is still, basically, her short term memory. She is still able to function independently and occasional she will drive to bowling where she is on a team with one of her sons. And to her hairdresser. Otherwise, she is a home body. I'm thinking my next speed bump is me. When the time comes and I bring up the subject of her needing to get out and socialize I expect her to go defensive and say "why don't you get out and socialize". And she has a point. I don't have a social circle of men. I don't even have a male best friend here in my area. So, I think I need to figure out my situation first. Also, I need to do a better job of controlling my guilt feelings. Thanks for the talk.
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maybe you could volunteer at the Day Center and bring her along.....? or at a local senior center, they have lots of activities.....
I have visited several senior day centers. One really caught my attention when I saw how modern, spacious and active it was. I arrived as they were about to start a line dance class. All over 50 were welcomed. The workout room had incredible equipment. And the computer room was full. So, I think there are opportunities for seniors of all abilities.
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I identify with you jimdianne. About a year ago I investigated a senior day care for my husband. He wasn't ready for it then but he's deteriorating. He still drives to his favorite coffee shop and talks to the people there, telling the same stories over and over, but he loves it. So far the people there put up with him, perhaps because they don't have to listen to him all day like I do.
I feel trapped because when I go anywhere my husband worries and waits for me outside on the porch no matter what the weather is. Seeing him standing there looking up and down the street makes me feel guilty, so even when I manage an outing I'm aware of him waiting anxiously at home. I would love for him to have a day care place to go to but don't want to hurt his feelings by suggesting it. He doesn't realize the severity of his condition and doesn't know it's only going to get worse. I do know that there are a lot of us in this situation. That doesn't help but it does indicate the need for available, affordable solutions that don't necessarily involve assisted living, which can wipe out your savings.