@merpreb we went to marriage counseling soon after my ailing mother in law came to live with us. We had been married for one year when she needed help, and my two sisters in law wouldn't have her, so I became her caregiver until she died a year later. The counseling only helps to the extent that an individual will address their issues, and to the experience of the counselor to confront them. I thi k this happens far too often, therapists who allow their clients to ramble and never push them to see any deeper.