@secretwhitepop
I teach folks to take the steps when dealing with elderly parents to life their live so they have no regrets.
This is hard stuff you are doing...what are you doing after each interaction with things related to your moms care to TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF?
Like developing motto s to help you get thru your stuff after being with mom.
Also please remember, all the things you are doing, your mom already did for you....like washing rugs with pee on it and etc.
Cuz after your mom is gone, you don't want to have any regrets.
Yes, her care is important, but you are too.
Suggestion...go get a bottle of bubbles. Yes, I said bubbles..
Then blow your troubles into the bubble so you don't keep unnecessary burdens inside you.
Try it, it works.
I remember going and buying THE ENTIRE bubble supply in my tiny town. 100 bottles. I gave them away at Ceremony and it was so incredible watching 75 folks sending their cares up into the sky. Bright Wings