@secretwhitepop it takes a tremendous amount of physical mental and emotional energy to step into the role of caregiver for your parent. I cared for my MIL for a year until she passed away. Neither of her daughters would take her in and that was a sad situation. I believe I still haven't fully recovered from the experience. Now my own parents are aging and each time I visit I realize the inevitability of changes in the future. My mom hurt her knee last time I was there and taking care of her and my dad woke me up to the fact that I'm in no shape to be in that role, and I need to focus on building my physical strength back. I applaud you for all that you're doing for your mom. It is not easy. Have a good day today and allow those tears to flow. We are here for you!

@secretwhitepop- It's so difficult and heartbreaking to have to take care of the people who took care of us. Don't you think? Cleanliness is so important to help stave off infections too. When I took care of my mom, I had help, she was bathed everyday that she could get out of bed. She had Parkinson. Feeling good after doing all that for your mom must make you feel so good! Good for you.
Do you have other siblings that help you? Do you have a good relationship with your mom?
Why were you crying? My mom and I never really had a great relationship. But I never have been sorry that I helped take care of her.

Having great days on purpose reminds me of something. You know how people say "I feel bad, for no reason"? Well feel good for no reason!!

So sorry you are going through this. Adult caretaker of parent/ grandparent is NOT an easy role to fill