Oh my...sounds so familiar. Two major issues in one marriage are at least one too many. My husband has cognitive decline (he's 88) and I have pancreatic cancer. Trying to stay stress free, eat meals without arguments, trying to remember he can't help it, keeping up with bills, food and household maintenance--I know all of you readers are doing the same thing. He leans on me so heavily for everything--every tiny little decision (should I make coffee? what's happening today? why isn't my computer (phone, etc.) working?) Asks for my opinion and then argues about it. Hard to remember the good times. I'm glad I have some photo albums and get them out to look at old pictures--and I'm grateful for a supportive family, no financial worries after being frugal for a lifetime...