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Tips on minimizing withdrawal symptoms from Effexor (aka Venlafaxine)
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@sandij
I hear you loud and clear.
Well, good for you for being aware of all that and giving voice to your feelings. After reading it I was reminded of a tool I used to my benefit when feeling flooded like that.
I ALLOWED MYSELF to feel bad for a certain length of time. I CHOSE to allow myself to cry and whine and really wallow in my pain...
Why?
To Honor my feelings.
I validated my feelings because they were real.
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When life comes flooding at us, certain chemical reactions happen in the body. They MAKE US feel bad.
By allowing myself to feel bad and cry over things that were out of control, I was basically taking back control of my life.....
AND I needed a time limit because I could wallow in my sad, tragic childhood, or my many illnesses, or my body breaking down because of the extreme pain buried in my body as a child up to young adulthood.
By crying, I was releasing toxins that I couldn't get rid of any other way.
Smiling at you darling, try it, it works. Bright Wings
Replies to "@sandij I hear you loud and clear. Well, good for you for being aware of all..."
Thank you.
I HAVE been crying a LOT! I guess this is a withdrawal symptom? But, it’s different. It’s not as controllable as it seems it should be and, after a few minutes of weeping terribly, it ends and I feel oh so much better! Have to laugh, after a full day of looking at memory care places for mom, I brought my 8 year old to the library. Front and center was a book for kids “she’s still my grandma” about Alzheimer’s. I broke down in tears. A couple ten year old boys were whispering and looking very uncomfortable! Ha! I have to laugh now. It was pretty funny.
Then, as providence would have it, I found a gorgeous and perfect book on Ecclesiastes (sp). There truly is a time and a purpose for everything. Including weeping.
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Honoring my feelings is essential! And my natural tendency is to fight them if they're unpleasant or uncomfortable or scary, because I don't like feeling those things. But fighting them intensifies them, and allowing myself to really feel them takes away a lot of their power, oddly enough. But I'm with you on setting a time limit, too. After a while, enough is enough. I've felt them and honored them and now it's time to try to set them aside and focus on other things, as hard as that may be at first. It helps me to remember, too, that feelings aren't facts. By their very nature, they're transitory, even though when I'm experiencing them, they feel like they're the only reality and will last forever. (BTW, if anyone tries to tell me this when I'm in the midst of panic or great fear or ever big depression, I want to slug them -- if I have the energy!) Lately, I've been back into an old standby that I haven't read for years -- ``Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway'' by Susan Jeffers. It's helping. I think I'll also go back to some books by Claire Weekes, an Australian physician whose works helped me immensely years ago in understanding and dealing with panic and anxiety. For a long time she was just about the only one who'd written books on this. Her writing was kind and illuminating at the same time. I highly recommend her.