Hello,
Maybe some of you already know that there are tons of books about adult child estrangement. I personally like Dr. Joshua Coleman. He has webinars and lessons that you can pay a small amount of money ($75 for several lessons) and gives free advice. His advice is solid, but difficult to hear. It is extremely sad and difficult. I now have two sons that married "cult of one" women who are now controlling their lives. My youngest son told me a year ago, he would never act like his brother, but then he suddenly married an older woman with 4 children who seduced him at work. I am very shocked by his decisions. The pain is unbearable at times. I would like to have a support group just for this topic. I need support for implementing the ideas of Dr. Coleman. He says if you've tried everything, you need to go "no contact" on them for at least a year, That is where I struggle. I was so close to my sons, that I reach out and get whiny, which makes me disgusted with myself for acting like that and gives fuel to the spouse to say I have problems. It would be a group like AA where we can mentor each other and reach out before we "act out" which in this case would be send a whiny message asking why they are treating their mother so badly.
Is there any interest? I live in Dubuque, Iowa and would love to have a face to face meeting too.
Let me know what all of you think.
Coleen